1. The verdict
Stop saying you're "not good at it." It's not a genetic curse; it's a label you've given yourself because it's more comfortable than publicly failing. And you know what? As long as you keep it, you're going around in circles.
> What you call "your personality" is often just your poorly digested past.
2. What you were sold: talent is innate
You've been taught to define yourself by what you already know how to do. "I'm bad at sports," "I'm messy," "I'm not cut out for organization"... you throw these phrases around like they're laws carved in stone. Except the truth is: they're beliefs. Not truths.
The psychology behind this is crystal clear: how you think about your potential determines what you develop and what you don't. Stanford psychologist Carol Dweck's study shows that those who believe their skills can grow are more successful, bounce back better, and take more risks .
3. Here's what they don't tell you: you don't need to believe in yourself, you need to be rigorous with your mind.
Growth mindset isn't telling yourself you're going to get there with glitter in your eyes. It's telling yourself you're going to do it anyway , whether you doubt it or not, whether it's hard or not.
> Add "YET" to each blocking thought. You go from "I don't know how to do it" to "I STILL don't know how to do it." And that's a posture switch.
4. Exercise: The autopsy of your limiting beliefs
-
Take a piece of paper. Write down all the internal phrases you repeat to yourself when you give up.
-
Then transform them one by one.
“I’m not organized” becomes: “I’m learning to structure my life.”
“I don’t know how to sell myself” becomes: “I am developing my ability to talk about my value.”
Doing this exercise regularly reprograms your self-talk. And eventually, it's your very posture that changes.
5. Focus on the effort, not just the trophy
Whenever you only see the end result, you forget the element that makes the difference: repetition.
Celebrating small steps forward, micro-changes, is retraining your brain to love the process more than the result itself. And According to a Harvard Business Review study , people who celebrate their "micro-wins" stay committed to their goals 3x longer.
6. Your curiosity is a weapon: draw it.
Ask yourself this simple question every morning: "What can I learn today?"
This isn't just a question for a good child. It's a warrior's attitude. The stance of a woman who knows that every piece of knowledge legitimizes its next level.
"I never went to sleep one night without learning something." Charles Aznavour
You don't need motivation. You need self-restraint. A discipline that honors you!
So, ask yourself this question. And move forward.
Sources:
